Insecurities and there effects
- Omar Noormahomed
- Apr 13, 2022
- 5 min read
In this day and age most of us are suffering with insecurities and stresses about something or another in our lives. Most insecurities are caused by experiences that leave a negative impression on our mental state of mind, but some of these insecurities are caused by our own thinking and perception of ourselves, these insecurities we need to address as we consistently suffer through them daily.
I call these every day thought insecurities, one of my own examples is everyday I look in the mirror and see what has replaced my abs and I’m upset by what I see, every day I’m holding in my belly, every day I’m doing something to attempt to cover up my insecurity. I could Spend at least 2 1/2 three hours thinking about it and trying to disguise it rather than doing 10/20 sit ups or however many I can manage whenever I can manage to do them which would definitely be less than 2 1/2 to 3 hours a day. And every day I am guaranteed to sit down and watch maybe 2 to 4 hours of TV but within those hours I don’t think about my insecurities?! Then I go to sleep, wake up, look in the mirror and it starts all over again! Madness!
There are also millions of us constantly doubting ourselves and our abilities. Some of the students we will receive will not have the confidence to join because of this issue. I did it with this Charity, I didn't believe it was possible and even got told by a member of the state they are not opening any more free schools! (not true) I have been laughed at and have been bombarded with negative energy but!...Here I am continuing to try and save our young from neglect.
We have a serious issue and we all need to take note of it and move together to make it right.
Thought process insecurities are based upon self reflection and most people don’t see themselves as others do. Females suffer with this type of insecurity more than males as the Media portrays a type of woman that was built for TV and entertainment but this a general condition we all deal with.
The Media also helped spread the props of TV and entertainment into reality/stores i.e. fake lashes, fake breasts, fake hair and contact lenses to name a few, which then instilled in every woman an opportunity to attempt to become a version of their entertainment idols.
We need to pay a little bit more attention to our thought patterns concerning self-worth and evaluation. Every time we become conscious of our insecurities and we fail to do something about them removes a positive tick box from our self evaluations sheets to keep us in a negative state of mind.
Here are 5 simple techniques you can use to help destress and build your inner confidence to keep the negative thought process to a minimum.
1. Talk yourself out of stress
Many people encounter stress daily. Hopefully, most of us have friends who can help talk us off a ledge when things get rough. But sometimes the only person you should be talking is yourself. Science also shows it’s a great idea too.
A new study published suggests talking to ourselves in the third person but silently, in our heads, can help us regulate our emotions. Self-talk may be more useful than talking to ourselves out loud in the first person.
The study also found uttering a few words of encouragement to yourself, internally, such as “Mate... there is no immediate danger, look up and look around! Everything is fine!” can reduce the stress felt regarding feeling Frightened and anxious.
“Essentially, we think referring to yourself in the third person leads people to think about themselves more similar to how they think about others, and you can see evidence for this in the brain,” said Jason Moser of Michigan State University. “That helps people gain a tiny bit of psychological distance from their experiences, which can be useful for regulating emotions.”
2. Repeat 'I am okay'
Even in dire circumstances, you can be okay. You can’t always control your physical environment, but it’s possible to control your mind. You decide whether to panic or stay calm.
Practise being aware of stressful situations. You can choose your thoughts when challenges arise and resolve to take charge of your well-being.
When you foresee stress try to have a good-feeling thought about a time, place or moment! Repeat that you will be okay. A good technique is to breathe, think, and then decide how to react. What’s happening around you has no hold on your emotions; only you have that power.
3. Expand your awareness
There are methods and techniques you can use to ground yourself and bring your stress levels down. Quartz crystals are one of them and they absorb energy (rose quartz is recommendable) Find Your stone and keep it with you so at any time you feel anxious you can hold it, roll it around your fingers/hands and it will help reduce the impact of stress related issues.
List areas in your life in which you have no stress. For example, a colleague may get on your nerves, but you know your job has so many other perks. Expand your awareness to reduce stress and increase your enjoyment, no matter what’s occurring that needs improvement. Focus on what works rather than on what makes you unhappy.
4. Listen to music
If you are feeling overwhelmed by a stressful situation, try taking a break and listening to relaxing music or playing holistic healing melodies. Playing calm music/sounds have a positive vibrational effect on the brain and body, it can lower blood pressure, and reduce cortisol, a hormone linked to stress.
5. Breathe easy/Meditate
The advice “take a deep breath” may seem like a cliché, but it holds true when it comes to managing your stress levels. For centuries, Buddhist monks have been conscious of deliberate breathing during meditation. For an easy three to five-minute exercise, sit up in your chair, eyes closed, with your feet flat on the floor and hands on top of your knees. Breathe in and out slowly and deeply, concentrating on your lungs as they expand fully in your chest. With each inhale, soften the belly even more. While shallow breathing causes stress, deep breathing oxygenates your blood, helps centre your body and clears your mind.
If you have an Apple Watch, you can also use the Breathe app that helps with this.
Conclusion
Stress is an unavoidable part of life, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore it whatever the cause of it is you Will get past it. Too much untreated stress can cause potentially serious physical and mental health problems.
The good news is that in a variety of different cases, stress is manageable. With some patience and the useful 5 strategies above you can reduce your stress, better the quality of your life and build for a brighter future.
The way ahead is to reduce worrying about things that cannot be resolved and keep your goal at the forefront of your thoughts. Make your everyday dealings be with people who will push you forward towards your goals.
Our brains are very powerful, they have the abilities to build space stations! But regretfully it can also block our progress while trying to protect us, take care and control of it, direct it...to Build the life you want!
It all started with a thought! What are you going to think of next?!?!
Mental Health reference links
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